I’m sure you’ve had the experience of speaking to someone and getting no response. 

Oh, you’re not married?

Well perhaps you have a sibling who ignored you once. Alright I’m being a little cynical here. Point is, I’m sure we’ve all felt ignored – maybe pretty often.

Recently I said something to my wife and there was no answer. What I had said wasn’t important and so I didn’t bother to repeat it.

I did spend some time thinking about it. I even made up a few stories about it. I don’t know if any of them are true.

One of them had to do with her not thinking my comments were worth a response.

Another was that she just didn’t hear me.

One indicated that I never had anything worth saying anyway.

I could have made up some others but I was just noticing how it goes. We experience something and then start making it mean something. Most of the time we’re just making up stories. Sometimes they may be true. It really never matters because all the meaning is in the story we make up – it means what we make it up to mean.

Ever feel like God isn’t responding to your requests? Do you pray and feel like your request never gets past the ceiling? Do you ask and feel like the answers never come?

Our relation with God is really no different than our relation with others.

Often it’s easy to start feeling like we’re really unimportant to God.

We may deduce that we’re just not worthy of a response – maybe if we had more faith, trust, etc.

Or it may be that God is angry with me and I must do something to please Him.

All stories. They are all true if we make them true. None are true if we accept none of them.

So what is true?

Jesus told the woman at the well “God is a Spirit: and they that worship him must worship him in spirit and in truth.”

I think we err when we ascribe all the human characteristics to the God spirit that we possess. We get to thinking that God is this or that, angry or happy, etc. We feel unworthy in relation to Him. So it’s just as if we’re talking to a human being who just happens to be invisible and yet we view Him as sitting on a great throne up in the sky somewhere – often with a lightning bolt in His hand aimed right at us!

But God is a spirit. So maybe he doesn’t possess all these characteristics we assume.

Maybe He doesn’t think of us as being unworthy. Maybe He doesn’t view us as unimportant and deserving the silent treatment. (As we ourselves have often viewed others.)

What if we made up a story about God being excited to hear our requests and more than ready to fulfill every one? What if we made up a story about us and God being of one spirit so that everything we desired was in alignment and agreement?

How does that feel?

You know, it’s interesting how we make up some stories that just make us feel terrible. We feel wronged, unworthy, mistreated, abused, put down, unfairly treated, etc…. ad infinitum….

Then sometimes we make up stories that make us feel great! We feel uplifted, invincible, happy, a kindred sprit with God, etc.

So, look at how you feel the next time you suspect God is ignoring you.

Notice the story you’ve made up.

Then ask some questions.

Do I like this feeling?

Is this story true? How do I know?

If I don’t like the way this story makes me feel, how should I rewrite the story?

Then rewrite if in a way that makes you feel the way you would like to feel!

Sounds kind of silly doesn’t it?

Here’s the thing: You’re a spirit too. You just think all these human characteristics are you. You’ve really forgotten who you are when you’re getting all caught up in feelings about how bad or good, right or wrong you are.

That’s just something we do. You’ll keep doing it even when you’re aware of it probably. That’s okay.

It is pretty nice when you realize what you’re doing to yourself. Then you can actually turn it around if you choose!

There’s always the possibility that God is giving you exactly what you’re asking for.

I have expanded on this topic here: Why Is God Ignoring Me?


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  • Herman Lombard Feb 18, 2013, 10:44 am

    Hi Robert,

    It sounds if you are trying to wat Anthony Robbins is proposing. If you try hard enough and be positive all the time , you will receive what you believe in. The fact is Robert that life is not so simplistic and things are not so easy understandable as you make it. Ask me, I am a dedicated christian for many years now, I am old and my life is almost over. I had dreams just like anyone else, I faced many obstacles, some of them do hard to describe. Many times God will not let your dreams come true, no matter how you believe or imagine or pray or try to move God. His ways are unpredictable. When you go back and study the lives of many christians through the ages, Paul, Justin Martyr John Huss and others, then you must realise that God has his own ways. Faith is not in what you receive. Even if you receive nothing from God you have a choice: will you continue to believe or will you become an atheist. Unfortunately our spiritual lives will suffer, because God will not look for medals and trophies, but for scars and broken hearts. Our God is not an average God, but He is souvern and His will and ways are not ours. I live in a country where our lives are worth nothing. Still I have to choose that in spite of all the suffering, poverty and danger, will I continue to serve Him or will I quit. That is the only thing that I have a choice in.

    Bless all who read this!


  • Robert Feb 18, 2013, 11:16 am


    I get what you’re saying. I was a dedicated Christian for a number of years as well. I found as many of my readers that some things just didn’t make sense – just as you are saying.

    I was thrust down a slightly different path than you’ve taken. I suppose I could have resisted, but something within me wanted to take the journey.

    I really believe there truth in the promises of Jesus. When Jesus said “According to your faith be it unto you…” “Anything you ask in my name…” “All these things and greater shall you do….” There’s just something in me that won’t let that go.

    The apparent fact that they do not work doesn’t mean they don’t work. To me it just means the apparent fact is not a fact! And so the search goes on…

    Thanks so much for your comments and the beautiful spirit in which you communicate. I really believe that you have expressed the sentiment of many a Christian and I also believe that while it works for some, it just doesn’t work for all. I’m not saying one is more right than another either. What I do believe is that we all must come to terms with our own relationship with God – and that will have much to do with each of us, our faith and what we allow.

    Thanks and blessings,


  • Chris Feb 18, 2013, 8:56 pm

    You can stop sending me this crap at anytime.

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  • Nikki Jan 11, 2015, 7:32 pm

    Hi Robert,
    I completely understand where you are coming from as it relates to being a very devout Christian and then learning through a personal relationship with God that religion is just man made beliefs. I commend you for expressing your views to others because I keep what I know to myself for the most part because when it comes to religion, I’ve been there and done that. I know the mind of a religiously committed person and I don’t see any value an expressing the truth that I have learned as a result of my personal experience with God and spiritual matters to a person who believes they already know it all when it comes to life and spirit (I.E. – Chris). I found this article helpful and I think that it takes a lot of courage to be able to post what you know even though you will receive a lot of negative feedback from people who only know what they’ve been brainwashed to believe. Ignore the naysayers, some of us know where you are coming from, and it is nice to know that there are others like us who went from being religiously to being Godly and understand that there is a huge difference.

  • Gary Jan 18, 2015, 11:48 am

    I’m just lost. I’ve been a christian for many years. I’ve prayed and tried my best to live his commandments and it seems it’s all for naught. The harder I try the further I get kicked back. Out of 4 children I’m the only one that didn’t get a scholarship for college (couldn’t afford a loan either) I wasn’t even a high school honor graduate. All 3 of my siblings are happily married and have decent careers. I’m all alone and struggling to find a job. What makes me so different from them in his eyes? Why am I the one to suffer? and finally I’ll start believing things are turning around romantically and financially and then both doors are slammed in my face. Am I the one he chose to take his wrath out upon? I must be. I’ve come to the conclusion he doesn’t love me and I’m the sacrifice for my siblings to make a decent life. if this is true then so be it. at this point I have 2 options: suicide or move on. I’ll move one just simply because I won’t give him the pleasure of seeing me crack.

  • Robert Jan 19, 2015, 10:18 pm

    Hi Nikki,

    Thanks for sharing. I’m glad you get it. Few do.



  • Robert Jan 19, 2015, 10:25 pm


    A lot of things come to mind when I read your post.

    I suppose the first thing is that all suffering comes from attachment. We get to choose if our life experience includes suffering – I know that sounds like philosophical bullshit but it really does seem to hold true.

    I would highly recommend “The Master Key System” to you. Google it and find the free PDF. Most won’t put in the effort to read it and practice but I offer it to you.

    You and God are one. Yes really. You love yourself, God loves you.

    The quality of your siblings lives has nothing to do with the sacrifice of your own.

    I’m glad you’re choosing to move on over suicide. Suicide solves nothing. We are eternal spiritual beings involved in a temporary human experience.

    Keep seeking. You have nothing to fear and everything to gain.



  • Shawn Rushing Feb 18, 2015, 7:00 pm

    My name.is Shawn and I too am to the point of no longer believing talking to and it recognizing God as the bible descibrs Him to be. I have been a giving and loving person myentire life only to end up with bullshit and pain and suffering . Where is the God in this. I understand the bible saids so many different things about THAT walk with GOD being and making life tougher and harder to deal with and accept. But dam , when does it stop. When does God step is in and show Himself. Wouldn’t that be all the more reason to follow and believe the word instead of create doubt and the feeling of being set aside and or overlooked by God himself. I mean there has to be some reward here on earthh for being a servant.

  • Downtrodden Mar 30, 2015, 6:38 am

    I myself feel that God chooses who he blesses and who He doesn’t bless. I’ve tried for years to make a success of myself. I pray every day for guidance and help. But feel that none is given. I have a twin, and for her, everything is rosey. She always gets the better job, the great hous, cool cars… And me, I feel like I’m left behind. Maybe there’s a curse somewhere, that falls on the eldest of us two. That’ll be me. I’m not jealous of my sister, she works hard. And she earned her cool car and great house. My question is; Why do some get blessed for their hard work, and others don’t? Why do things just fall into place for others, and then there are those who have to scrounge just to pay the bills. And don’t even always succeed. It gets you down, and I’ve gotten to a point where I’m questioning my faith. Is it worht it? Is it worth crying, beggin and praying to no avail? Does God really try one’s faith to breaking point? Does He really test you to the point where you no longer have hope or strength left? Is that the God I’m serving? Or maybe I’m the Kain in my family. Who works and tries his very best to get blessed, but God simply doesn’t want it? Because the Abel in my familiy’s offerrings are better than mine? Is that it? I’ve been praying for answers, but I get none. I read my bible, but there’s no answer there either. Yes, God blessed Job after he lost everything. He also cried, en begged God to have mercy on him. And God did. But I was never really blessed to begin with. Yes I’m healthy, and able to work. But didn’t God say we’ll earn our bread by the sweat of our brows? Am I not sweating hard enough? Because I’m not even earning my bread. I work hard, but for nought. I have nothing to show for it. I’m hopeless and downtrodden, I pray for rest. But get none. Am I cursed by God, or hasn’t He even given me enough thought to go that far? Maybe He’s too busy. I don’t have the answers to any of my questions. But I do know that sometimes God doesn’t answer you. Sometimes you just have to keep going, even if is just for the sake of not withering away. God blesses who He wants to, and that’s it. You can pray and beg all you want. If it’s not His will, it’s not His will.

  • Robert Apr 1, 2015, 6:28 am

    Hi Downtrodden,

    I’m sure there a millions of people on this planet that have the same experience as you’ve described.

    I would offer to you the possibility that perhaps things don’t work quite the way you believe and things are not what they seem.

    Google “The Master Key System”. You can find a free PDF.



  • Brian Apr 8, 2015, 11:40 pm

    I gather from the other posts that many believe that some people in this world are blessed and others are not. I too find myself in a situation of constant calamities with no answers to prayer for many years while others that I know who wouldn’t mention the name Jesus in public have resources beyond my wildest imagination to the point of absurdity. They do nothing with their wealth except feed their arrogance. I imagine if I had a fraction of their wealth the good I would do like feed the poor and do everything I could to spread the Gospel. But such is not the case. I am so ill from over work that I am now out of work and my family will begin to suffer from this financial loss. If I assume that the wealthy are all “blessed”, wouldn’t that make God responsible for the inequities in the world? It seems to me that the distribution of wealth in this world has nothing to do with blessing but merely random events, hence an attribute of the human condition. I don’t know yet how God fits in to this picture but I doubt he is responsible for the inequities of the world. Food for thought.

  • treva May 1, 2015, 11:08 am

    I just don’t understand how if you believe and pray talk plead for help that you are just ignored. 3 years ago I lost my job savings home car everything. I have prayed and asked for Gods help for 3 solid years. Only to have one after another bad thing happen. I no longer have dreams or hope. Why do some people say oh I prayed about my situation and it took two weeks and God blessed me. Or I was destitute and now I have smuch.Why does God flat out ignore some of us. Am I his joke. I want my own home my own car(I walk or ride bus and I am 61) use my own stuff. A life. I have done interviews tried to go to school. Only to be shut down time after time. Its getting to where I am having doubts. I just want God to help me. Why won’t He?

  • Richard May 3, 2015, 4:46 am

    I’m just a kid, it’s like god doesn’t listen to me. i hoped he would. i know he he would but, he doesnt. i’m so lonley and god doesnt want me to have friends. i can only think god doesn’t like me. i dont knw why. i’m not much of a christian maybe? but i want to be. and i pry about it and i feel bad because i know i could be a better christian and i try. i get bulleyed a lot. i just fell like im so bad. kind of like less then human. why doesnt god help? i feel so alone. i wake up and know no one will hang around me and im so lonley. it hurts . its like a hurt thats inside me. it aches . because i know it’s not going to change. after typing this i want to cry, i see whats happening to me. god is the only one that can help me but he wont he should have by now

  • Robert May 30, 2015, 10:55 am

    Hi Brian,

    This is something that I recently had a conversation about.

    At this time I feel that we have a couple of choices about how we react to our life situations.

    1: Just plod along and complain about what we lack.

    2: Keep going, thinking about what we desire as we go forward.

    As I wrote in an article on this site somewhere “Every thought is a prayer and they’re all answered.” If we choose option 1, the prayer we’re offering is one of lack, struggle, poverty, etc. And so we receive.

    With option 2 we will receive the answer to those prayers/thoughts.

    So the choice seems easy – but where are your thoughts 51% of the time? If you’re like most folks, you’re thinking about all the stuff you don’t want the majority of the time and offering a prayer for lack and limitation to almighty God.

    Please accept my apologies for the delay in approving your comment and replying.



  • Robert May 30, 2015, 10:57 am

    Hi Treva,

    Thanks for sharing your comments. Please take a look at my reply to Brian.

    And please accept my apologies for my delay in approving your comment and replying.



  • Robert May 30, 2015, 11:02 am

    Hi Richard,

    Please accept my apologies for the delay in approving your comment and replying.

    I think my comments to Brian are also applicable to your situation.

    As I’ve written in other articles on this site, our view of God and what/who God is greatly affects our experience of God. We simply won’t experience anything outside our belief system. If we did, we’d think we were crazy!

    You seem to have a fairly dark view of God. Your experience has nothing to do with not being Christian. God is above and beyond all religious distinctions.

    Expect a miracle, and while patiently waiting for it, give thanks for it. KEEP your mind on that miracle. Don’t let it go wandering away on negative thinking. You have to control your thinking or your mind will control you.



  • Jack Jul 2, 2015, 12:33 am

    I have had a blessed life, kind of. I’ve felt the hand of God so many times in my life. I’ve walked away from at least 7 motor vehicle accidents. One hit head on by a car while riding a motorcycle. It knocked my out, and I hurt, but I was up walking around 10 minutes after the accident. I was walking around before I could remember my name or where I lived. The thing is I KNEW I was going to die, and unless you’ve been in a situation like that, I cannot explain the emotional and physical feeling of knowing you are about to die in 2 seconds. I don’t think the words exist in English. First I felt fear, then adrenaline, and then I just accepted that was the end – all these emotions crammed into 2 seconds. Just living through that would have been a miracle, but I literally walked away from it. Another time I had a hernia. I know it was a hernia, I felt AND HEARD my intestine pop out. (You hear a pop) I never went to the doctor, instead I prayed to God to heal me sitting in the cab of my work truck. Immediately I started coughing uncontrollably, and after a couple seconds – it popped back in. No joke. I’ve never been to the doctor to this day for it 14 years later. I got laid off in 2009 and collected unemployment for 2 years. Literally the day it ran out, I got another job, got laid off from that in a few months, got another job.
    I feel like God has been absolutely guiding me by my hand through my life and watching out for me like a father until a few months ago. I have been saved for 30 years (In my 40s now) and I always knew God favored me and had a plan for my life since he seemed to protect me when I should have been badly hurt or killed so many times. (Physically and financially) For the last few months, seems like God isn’t listening. Maybe He’s testing my faith. If so I don’t like it. There is one thing God and Jesus don’t acknowledge anywhere in the bible. That is I had no choice in being here. I’m trapped on this beautiful planet with the sickest low-life maggots, and I had no choice in the matter. There is no denying how evil people are and the more wicked and evil you are the more wealth and power you get. OK its the devil’s world, so I get that part. However, Jesus Christ even had a choice of coming here and dying the horrible way he did. The Father and the Holy Spirit have never been imprisoned in a body and on the earth and I think its quite cruel to care for someone all their life, keep your PROMISES to them, then just stop one day. It would be one thing if I had any choice, and I chose to be born, and chose to live on earth in these circumstances, but I didn’t choose it. Someone else chose for me. I’m just stuck here like all of us.
    My point is making someone feel favored and loved and cared for, then taking it all away is cruel and not loving in any way. To me it’s worse than never being blessed in the first place. Then I thought how many of Jesus’s disciples were executed in prisons. A lot. God allowed the closest followers of His to die horrible deaths. Being eaten alive by lions? So I started to think is God a loving God? I don’t know. I’ve been told He is. He says he’s loving. When I look at the circumstances and outcomes of a percentage of His followers, I have to say I’m not convinced. Why should God honor His promises if and when He wants, and only for some and not for others? The part I can’t get my brain around is why the hell protect me so closely through my life just to get me to this point which is insignificant? I don’t know if I’ve brought a single person to Christ, although I’ve told several. Maybe I’m just ineffectual as a Christian witness, and God is over it. So then He turns you over to the wicked in the devil’s world and let’s them have at you until the time of your death. That sounds pretty loving. Really if I were given a choice, knowing what I know now, I’d have chosen not to be created. Factor that into your decision making please God.

  • White Sep 8, 2015, 11:44 am

    I believe we all have been in a situation where our prayers seems to be in vain, but one thing i know for sure there is God,
    I came from a muslim background, a christian mom and a muslim dad, they are not together, i lived with my mom, so i started my life as a christian, my elder sister was in the choir, she leads worship songs, she loved God,she has seen several revelations, including an angel, a unicorn horse, and three personalties that came into their midst during a prayer meeting. Gradually immorality crept into her life and totally disrupt her life, even though she tried to get closer to God again but I’m not sure if it worked because her life is in confusion since over 12 years and her marital life is a battle ground

    I personally love to have a unique relationship with God i love fasting and prayer, i once had an encounter with God in which He spoke clearly to me, my spirit being came outside my body , i told Him “Lord I want to know you” and He responded “PATINCE PATIENCE PATIENCE” followed by the sound of rushing water and thunder, and i was back in my body, this was not a dream, i was excited and wanted more of Him but i do not know how, i fasted, prayed, pleaded, i desire another encounter although i had various dreams, but i wanted a real relationship. i desire this so much because i know i will never have to worry about not having friends, but all attempt to get closer to God was in vain,

    My life has been a struggle to achieve any good thing, although He has healed and deliver me from attacks , yet even to read and have a good grade at school was difficult, i had a bad sight and i am also stammerer, even my muslim friends once mocked me and told me to tell jesus to help me, i read for exams, prayed but there was little or no improvement,

    Infact i was sent away from my first university because i failed and my GP was 0.74, think about such disgrace and humiliation that i endured, between friends and course mates, there was a woman who knew in my street, she spread the news in the street where i lived that i had been sent away from school. i got admssion into another university i struggled throughout the university, i always resits exams, i graduated with a third class degree

    i know those who do not desire a relationship with God and who do not put in several efforts in reading and having A’s in their exams. and their life is not characterised by challenges, frustration, failure, depression, confusion
    i know i am not worthy, because i had become a porn addict, but i have also prayed and fasted several times for deliverance but always fall back after some time,
    I have heard stories of him delivering people from addiction, and His visit to different christians and non christians too, so it is not really about being worthy or how long you prayed or plead, i realize this the hard way
    ” For He says to Moses, “I WILL HAVE MERCY ON WHOM I HAVE MERCY, AND I WILL HAVE COMPASSION ON WHOM I HAVE COMPASSION.” So then it does not depend on the man who wills or the man who runs, but on God who has mercy .( Rom 9:15)

    I am hurt inside, but brethren do not be bitter towards God even though He ignores you, trust me i know what it feels like to be ignored, think about what he has given you, as for me, i am a good singer, i play the piano, i dance, i play the guitar, i play the drum kit, and i know how to draw, even though i am not the best in this things , i thank him for the gift of life, even though he has abandoned me, i will be grateful if he allows me in His kingdom just to be a the Gate of heaven.

  • Nicholas Oct 4, 2015, 5:31 am

    Robert, i am very pleased to read your article, it seems that you have a very positive mind. I want to tell you a story, i was once a son of a rich manager, whatever that i ask, my parents will give it to me, i was also a top grade student. But God change it all, my father was framed by his corrupt employees, my father got fired, my family lost all the money we had. Now my parents are struggling with a never ending debts. It appears that God has stop helping my family, he doesn’t listen, every help that he gave me either useless or far too late. I lost my grade, my friends (yes, they only care about money), almost everything. Now i wonder, where is he now? Is he laughing, enjoy watching my miserable life? I never know, but what is he doing now? I pray to him every single day, almost cry thinking about my current condition, but no…. It seems that he didn’t care. What should i do now? Is he testing my fate? Do He want me to beg? What now? Please help me Robert.

  • Robert Oct 4, 2015, 6:55 am


    Thanks for sharing.

    I will reply privately.



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