God, Why Are You Ignoring Me?

I’m sure you’ve had the experience of speaking to someone and getting no response. 

Oh, you’re not married?

Well perhaps you have a sibling who ignored you once. Alright I’m being a little cynical here. Point is, I’m sure we’ve all felt ignored – maybe pretty often.

Recently I said something to my wife and there was no answer. What I had said wasn’t important and so I didn’t bother to repeat it.

I did spend some time thinking about it. I even made up a few stories about it. I don’t know if any of them are true.

One of them had to do with her not thinking my comments were worth a response.

Another was that she just didn’t hear me.

One indicated that I never had anything worth saying anyway.

I could have made up some others but I was just noticing how it goes. We experience something and then start making it mean something. Most of the time we’re just making up stories. Sometimes they may be true. It really never matters because all the meaning is in the story we make up – it means what we make it up to mean.

Ever feel like God isn’t responding to your requests? Do you pray and feel like your request never gets past the ceiling? Do you ask and feel like the answers never come?

Our relation with God is really no different than our relation with others.

Often it’s easy to start feeling like we’re really unimportant to God.

We may deduce that we’re just not worthy of a response – maybe if we had more faith, trust, etc.

Or it may be that God is angry with me and I must do something to please Him.

All stories. They are all true if we make them true. None are true if we accept none of them.

So what is true?

Jesus told the woman at the well “God is a Spirit: and they that worship him must worship him in spirit and in truth.”

I think we err when we ascribe all the human characteristics to the God spirit that we possess. We get to thinking that God is this or that, angry or happy, etc. We feel unworthy in relation to Him. So it’s just as if we’re talking to a human being who just happens to be invisible and yet we view Him as sitting on a great throne up in the sky somewhere – often with a lightning bolt in His hand aimed right at us!

But God is a spirit. So maybe he doesn’t possess all these characteristics we assume.

Maybe He doesn’t think of us as being unworthy. Maybe He doesn’t view us as unimportant and deserving the silent treatment. (As we ourselves have often viewed others.)

What if we made up a story about God being excited to hear our requests and more than ready to fulfill every one? What if we made up a story about us and God being of one spirit so that everything we desired was in alignment and agreement?

How does that feel?

You know, it’s interesting how we make up some stories that just make us feel terrible. We feel wronged, unworthy, mistreated, abused, put down, unfairly treated, etc…. ad infinitum….

Then sometimes we make up stories that make us feel great! We feel uplifted, invincible, happy, a kindred sprit with God, etc.

So, look at how you feel the next time you suspect God is ignoring you.

Notice the story you’ve made up.

Then ask some questions.

Do I like this feeling?

Is this story true? How do I know?

If I don’t like the way this story makes me feel, how should I rewrite the story?

Then rewrite if in a way that makes you feel the way you would like to feel!

Sounds kind of silly doesn’t it?

Here’s the thing: You’re a spirit too. You just think all these human characteristics are you. You’ve really forgotten who you are when you’re getting all caught up in feelings about how bad or good, right or wrong you are.

That’s just something we do. You’ll keep doing it even when you’re aware of it probably. That’s okay.

It is pretty nice when you realize what you’re doing to yourself. Then you can actually turn it around if you choose!

There’s always the possibility that God is giving you exactly what you’re asking for.

I have expanded on this topic here: Why Is God Ignoring Me?


  • Herman Lombard February 18, 2013, 10:44 AM

    Hi Robert,

    It sounds if you are trying to wat Anthony Robbins is proposing. If you try hard enough and be positive all the time , you will receive what you believe in. The fact is Robert that life is not so simplistic and things are not so easy understandable as you make it. Ask me, I am a dedicated christian for many years now, I am old and my life is almost over. I had dreams just like anyone else, I faced many obstacles, some of them do hard to describe. Many times God will not let your dreams come true, no matter how you believe or imagine or pray or try to move God. His ways are unpredictable. When you go back and study the lives of many christians through the ages, Paul, Justin Martyr John Huss and others, then you must realise that God has his own ways. Faith is not in what you receive. Even if you receive nothing from God you have a choice: will you continue to believe or will you become an atheist. Unfortunately our spiritual lives will suffer, because God will not look for medals and trophies, but for scars and broken hearts. Our God is not an average God, but He is souvern and His will and ways are not ours. I live in a country where our lives are worth nothing. Still I have to choose that in spite of all the suffering, poverty and danger, will I continue to serve Him or will I quit. That is the only thing that I have a choice in.

    Bless all who read this!


  • Robert February 18, 2013, 11:16 AM


    I get what you’re saying. I was a dedicated Christian for a number of years as well. I found as many of my readers that some things just didn’t make sense – just as you are saying.

    I was thrust down a slightly different path than you’ve taken. I suppose I could have resisted, but something within me wanted to take the journey.

    I really believe there truth in the promises of Jesus. When Jesus said “According to your faith be it unto you…” “Anything you ask in my name…” “All these things and greater shall you do….” There’s just something in me that won’t let that go.

    The apparent fact that they do not work doesn’t mean they don’t work. To me it just means the apparent fact is not a fact! And so the search goes on…

    Thanks so much for your comments and the beautiful spirit in which you communicate. I really believe that you have expressed the sentiment of many a Christian and I also believe that while it works for some, it just doesn’t work for all. I’m not saying one is more right than another either. What I do believe is that we all must come to terms with our own relationship with God – and that will have much to do with each of us, our faith and what we allow.

    Thanks and blessings,


  • Chris February 18, 2013, 8:56 PM

    You can stop sending me this crap at anytime.

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  • Nikki January 11, 2015, 7:32 PM

    Hi Robert,
    I completely understand where you are coming from as it relates to being a very devout Christian and then learning through a personal relationship with God that religion is just man made beliefs. I commend you for expressing your views to others because I keep what I know to myself for the most part because when it comes to religion, I’ve been there and done that. I know the mind of a religiously committed person and I don’t see any value an expressing the truth that I have learned as a result of my personal experience with God and spiritual matters to a person who believes they already know it all when it comes to life and spirit (I.E. – Chris). I found this article helpful and I think that it takes a lot of courage to be able to post what you know even though you will receive a lot of negative feedback from people who only know what they’ve been brainwashed to believe. Ignore the naysayers, some of us know where you are coming from, and it is nice to know that there are others like us who went from being religiously to being Godly and understand that there is a huge difference.

  • Gary January 18, 2015, 11:48 AM

    I’m just lost. I’ve been a christian for many years. I’ve prayed and tried my best to live his commandments and it seems it’s all for naught. The harder I try the further I get kicked back. Out of 4 children I’m the only one that didn’t get a scholarship for college (couldn’t afford a loan either) I wasn’t even a high school honor graduate. All 3 of my siblings are happily married and have decent careers. I’m all alone and struggling to find a job. What makes me so different from them in his eyes? Why am I the one to suffer? and finally I’ll start believing things are turning around romantically and financially and then both doors are slammed in my face. Am I the one he chose to take his wrath out upon? I must be. I’ve come to the conclusion he doesn’t love me and I’m the sacrifice for my siblings to make a decent life. if this is true then so be it. at this point I have 2 options: suicide or move on. I’ll move one just simply because I won’t give him the pleasure of seeing me crack.

  • Robert January 19, 2015, 10:18 PM

    Hi Nikki,

    Thanks for sharing. I’m glad you get it. Few do.



  • Robert January 19, 2015, 10:25 PM


    A lot of things come to mind when I read your post.

    I suppose the first thing is that all suffering comes from attachment. We get to choose if our life experience includes suffering – I know that sounds like philosophical bullshit but it really does seem to hold true.

    I would highly recommend “The Master Key System” to you. Google it and find the free PDF. Most won’t put in the effort to read it and practice but I offer it to you.

    You and God are one. Yes really. You love yourself, God loves you.

    The quality of your siblings lives has nothing to do with the sacrifice of your own.

    I’m glad you’re choosing to move on over suicide. Suicide solves nothing. We are eternal spiritual beings involved in a temporary human experience.

    Keep seeking. You have nothing to fear and everything to gain.



  • Shawn Rushing February 18, 2015, 7:00 PM

    My name.is Shawn and I too am to the point of no longer believing talking to and it recognizing God as the bible descibrs Him to be. I have been a giving and loving person myentire life only to end up with bullshit and pain and suffering . Where is the God in this. I understand the bible saids so many different things about THAT walk with GOD being and making life tougher and harder to deal with and accept. But dam , when does it stop. When does God step is in and show Himself. Wouldn’t that be all the more reason to follow and believe the word instead of create doubt and the feeling of being set aside and or overlooked by God himself. I mean there has to be some reward here on earthh for being a servant.

  • Downtrodden March 30, 2015, 6:38 AM

    I myself feel that God chooses who he blesses and who He doesn’t bless. I’ve tried for years to make a success of myself. I pray every day for guidance and help. But feel that none is given. I have a twin, and for her, everything is rosey. She always gets the better job, the great hous, cool cars… And me, I feel like I’m left behind. Maybe there’s a curse somewhere, that falls on the eldest of us two. That’ll be me. I’m not jealous of my sister, she works hard. And she earned her cool car and great house. My question is; Why do some get blessed for their hard work, and others don’t? Why do things just fall into place for others, and then there are those who have to scrounge just to pay the bills. And don’t even always succeed. It gets you down, and I’ve gotten to a point where I’m questioning my faith. Is it worht it? Is it worth crying, beggin and praying to no avail? Does God really try one’s faith to breaking point? Does He really test you to the point where you no longer have hope or strength left? Is that the God I’m serving? Or maybe I’m the Kain in my family. Who works and tries his very best to get blessed, but God simply doesn’t want it? Because the Abel in my familiy’s offerrings are better than mine? Is that it? I’ve been praying for answers, but I get none. I read my bible, but there’s no answer there either. Yes, God blessed Job after he lost everything. He also cried, en begged God to have mercy on him. And God did. But I was never really blessed to begin with. Yes I’m healthy, and able to work. But didn’t God say we’ll earn our bread by the sweat of our brows? Am I not sweating hard enough? Because I’m not even earning my bread. I work hard, but for nought. I have nothing to show for it. I’m hopeless and downtrodden, I pray for rest. But get none. Am I cursed by God, or hasn’t He even given me enough thought to go that far? Maybe He’s too busy. I don’t have the answers to any of my questions. But I do know that sometimes God doesn’t answer you. Sometimes you just have to keep going, even if is just for the sake of not withering away. God blesses who He wants to, and that’s it. You can pray and beg all you want. If it’s not His will, it’s not His will.

  • Robert April 1, 2015, 6:28 AM

    Hi Downtrodden,

    I’m sure there a millions of people on this planet that have the same experience as you’ve described.

    I would offer to you the possibility that perhaps things don’t work quite the way you believe and things are not what they seem.

    Google “The Master Key System”. You can find a free PDF.



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