How do I get closer to God?


In some ways a relationship with God is very much like the relations we have with others.  My experience in life has taught me that if I want to get closer to another person I must devote additional time to them.  This may mean doing things with them that I wouldn’t necessarily choose to do myself.

Recently my wife and I celebrated our 10th wedding anniversary.  After eating at a nice restaurant, Lani asked me if I wanted to go to a movie.  Now I don’t get into TV or movies – it’s just not my thing.  I could live the rest of my life not watching movies and never miss them.  Kinda like broccoli.  I know – I’m weird that way.

Anyway I said “Let’s drive by the theatre and see what’s playing.”  I knew she’d be familiar with the current movies and probably had one in mind.  She picked a romantic comedy and we went in and watched it.  Why aren’t romantic comedies funny?  Anyway…

That was time I spent for our relationship.  I would not have chosen that for myself.  When in relationship you have two unique personalities acting and reacting together.  For closeness to develop time must be devoted to each other.

What does this have to do with getting closer to God?  Relationship with God works the same way.

If you want to get closer to God then you need to spend some time with God.

This may mean choosing to do some things you may not ordinarily choose.

I can tell you that to get closer to God you will need to spend some time in stillness.

It’s kind of funny that often the activities we think ought to bring us closer may often do the opposite.  When we become aware of this we can begin to discover which activities actually do produce the closeness we desire.

One of the best ways to find out what will bring closeness is to ask!  We’ve covered various aspects of communicating with God throughout this site.

Still yourself and ask God “What can I do to get closer to you?”

That may seem obvious – but the answer may not!

You see you must truly still yourself.  Part of stillness is giving up your own ideas.  So when you ask that question in stillness – you’re giving up your preconceived notions about what may bring you closer to God.  Once you clear out your own ideas you create the space for God to answer you.

While God asks us to do specific things at times – for myself closeness really comes from investing time – quiet time – time in stillness – in that time instruction and inspiration comes – and I know that God and I are enjoying the relationship I seek!

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  • Carol Feb 7, 2010, 3:49 am

    This one really touched my heart. I am a former Jehovah’s Witness and have struggled anytime I get closer to God and the truth. A few days ago, I was really being attacked by the enemy. I remembered someone saying “to be still” to hear from God. I put everything away and laid down on my bed. After ten minutes, I had a COMPLETELY different attitude about the troubles I was facing and I heard God loud and clear. I wanted to find that verse about being still and googled it. I came across this website which I know was not by accident. It has helped me tremendously and I look forward to learning more. Thank you so very much!

  • Robert Feb 7, 2010, 6:17 am

    Thank you Carol for sharing your experience! There are no accidents!

    Thanks and blessings,


  • shweta Feb 8, 2010, 11:52 am

    is it required to sit in a meditative mood to still one’s mind or can we do it while doing any activity of the day like talking to someone…?

  • shweta Feb 8, 2010, 12:01 pm

    i had some similar experiences 2 yrs ago.i was mentally so ill and wanted my answers.Reading,counseling ,nothing helped because ‘how could i make sure it was true’…and one day i got all the answers i ever wanted from every dimension;answers to questions that i had forgotten and a hint that there would be more questions to ask…i thought no one would believe or how would i make them explain…’words have limitations’-was one of my answers….
    i am so glad to find this blog…whenever i feel low i read a page and try to work in that direction…

  • Robert Feb 8, 2010, 12:53 pm


    I feel that stillness is a state of being or mind that can be held throughout our day.

    That being said, it ain’t always easy!

    I enjoy spending some quiet time because it helps me all day long – and I feel less distraction.


  • Robert Feb 8, 2010, 12:56 pm

    Thanks for your kind words.

    You all probably don’t know this but reading your comments lifts my spirit. Your comments let me know that someone out there is listening and cares enough to respond!

    I also know how hard it is to comment on blogs. I don’t do much of it myself. So that makes it even more special when you take the time to post a comment.



  • caleb paul Apr 22, 2010, 7:43 am

    My mom is realy needing this so I hope it works.

  • Robert Apr 23, 2010, 11:31 pm

    Hope she finds it helpful. Thanks for sharing with her!



  • Charlie K, Jan 22, 2014, 12:19 pm

    sometimes the struggles of living become overwhelming, work, illness, aging…losing sight of God happens
    and priorities change. I am so glad I found this site where teaching me stillness and seeking God can be done. It has nort been easy for me but I am trying to get closer to God!

  • Robert Jan 22, 2014, 6:50 pm


    That is so true. The way we have created the systems that govern our physical lives, we tend to run out of time for seeking God and being still. Becoming aware of that is the first step back!

    Glad you’re here!



  • micknes Feb 6, 2014, 5:45 pm

    thank u
    this will help allot . at least now i have an idea

  • Brent Mar 16, 2015, 3:59 pm

    Where do you find the best place talk to God, woods, near water or in a quite room. And how hard is it to put yourself in that state of mind.

  • Robert Mar 17, 2015, 10:23 am


    Anywhere is fine.

    That being said, most of us have such a difficult time being still that I think it’s best to find a quiet space at home where you can spend thirty minutes to an hour every morning.

    I’ve found that it requires a daily practice over time so it’s nice to choose a space where you can be still daily.

    Hope this helps.


  • Joseph Aug 1, 2015, 6:42 pm

    I am a physical therapist and the past 3 months I had a contract assignment and was the first time I have been away from family. I never felt so homesick. And not only that. I became so lonely, anxious and depressed. There was no one to physically talk to. I called person after person after person just to hear them on the phone but nothing really worked. I began reading my bible and devotedly pray every day. God helped me thru’ it. But the more I try to get closer to Him, the more I feel like the enemy attacks. But I know this, Jesus is changing me one day at a time. I am more closer to Him than I ever was. I know that it was God’s plan for me to be away from home. Away from distractions. Away from everyone that was close to me so that I can spend more time with Him. And I did. I still have a lot of things I need to work on. But it helps to know that God is watching over me and is always here to listen to my prayers . I’m still taking medications for anxiety but I hope that one day, God will fully heal me. If my physical healing does not happen i know that spiritually I am being healed. And this is more important to me than anything. I want to devote more time with Jesus everyday. Please pray for me

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